yea, i'll admit it. i'm the girl that would eat both marshmallows at once. i don't have any self control, it's hard for me to think about long term investment, and i'd trade off instant gratification because i have little trust in long term payoffs.
it's a concept called emotional intelligence, popularized by daniel goleman in this book. emotional intellignece is a concept most commonly illustrated as what happens when you put a marshmallow on a child's desk and tell them that they are welcome to eat the marshmallow now, if they want to, but if they wait five minutes without eating the marshmallow, they can have two marshmallow. studies have shown that the kids who wait are the ones who succeed in school, tend to be more popular, are happier, and ultimately succeed in life.
so i guess i'm doomed. i get frustrated easily because i do want everything now. it's not greed, it's the inability to see into the future, to invest in myself. why should i? my whole live i've seen that i need to get things while i can, because people die, circumstances change, money and opportunities are lost. it's so hard for me to envision success in the long term because i have no assurance that i will be here in the long term.
hence learning is frustrating, because all of that is about thinking about the future and investing in yourself.
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